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Congrats on your recent engagement! Now what are you supposed to do?

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Most newly engaged couples aren’t experts of the wedding industry.  Unless you were that little girl that had a wedding scrapbook, your knowledge about the wedding industry is probably limited to the one’s you’ve attended and the one’s you’ve seen in a magazine. It can be a little daunting and stressful, but it doesn’t have to be.

Here are a few tips that I have learned over the years with past, and present brides!

  1. Be organized. With that said, start off with a plan. Choose a time out of the year you are considering to have your big ceremony. I only say choose a “time” because your date may be filled at the venue you want, or your vendor that you may want to use already may have a date. So be open to dates in the month, or months you want to get married in.  (If your flexible, than hey go for the stars and stick to your date.)
  2. Choose a theme. This makes life so much easier once you and your groom have figured out the locations that you favor. For example when choosing a venue space, consider these details. Will you have a lot of guest or a small intimate gathering? Do you want your ceremony, and reception to be in the same spot? Where will you get ready? Are you and your groom getting ready in the same spot? Is this an option? If not, how far are the facilities from one another? Do you want to dance under the stars, or would you rather twirl around a ballroom? Do you want your guest to serve themselves, or would you rather a wait staff to hand out their food?  After you’ve considered all those aspects you may find it easier to figure out where exactly you do want all the magic to happen. You may find your an urban lover, and would rather have a venue in a rustic brick atmosphere. Or, you love flowers, and being in nature. Dancing in the stars is part of your love language which means your dream wedding is probably a garden wedding.  You may even realize, you want a destination wedding? You don’t want the hassle of a huge guest list, and want something more intimate. There are plenty of destinations that can fit anyone’s budget. And traveling with family, or a small group  may be your favorite past time. So, if you see your wedding day with 50 or less people. This  may be your best option to have a wedding & honeymoon with your closes family and friends. Ultimately, any answer you and your significant other come up with will be right.
  3. You’ve figured out a theme, and perhaps what style of wedding you want, don’t leave out the details of location. Think about how far you will be from one place to another.  Where will your groom be when your getting ready? Also, what does the place you are getting ready look like? This will be more important for a photography aspect. Light is key in taking good images with that said, a beautifully lit room versus the basement of a church, or a conference room may not lend the same type of feel that a room that is open and filled with light from huge windows. Also think space.. If you want to see shoes, dresses, makeup bags, and beds everywhere in your images, than a hotel room will be alright. But if you want things to feel more open, organized, and less clutter, think a home or a studio space that allows you to have this. Ultimately all your details will depict how your day is shown or remembered.
  4. Wedding parties? How many? Who do you choose? Do I need a wedding party? The answer is no, you don’t need a wedding party. You can have however many people you want. Yes, it can be an unbalanced amount on each side. And yes, you don’t need all your relatives to stand beside you. Don’t let the madness cloud the importance of the day. After all it’s about only two people. So, if your standing at the alter and facing the person you love, I’d say your wedding party is complete. Try not to complicate it, make it simple. You know what you want, and it’s your day. Don’t include people because you feel forced.
  5. Elect a friend to help! If you don’t have a wedding planner, elect a friend to help. This person can help with scheduling, and speaking with vendors on the day of. You may call this person, the maid of honor, or the best man. Or, perhaps it’s your mom, or dad. Don’t be afraid to delegate responsibilities on the wedding day. Your objective is to be present on your wedding day. You will need someone to communicate with guest, and vendors about placements, attendance and scheduling.  Your day will run more smoothly if you have a timeline/ and schedule. Don’t worry about creating a schedule.
  6. Create a timeline with your vendors! This is one of the most important steps in planning an effectively stress-free wedding! It may take some tweaking and some back and forth emails, but the end result will be most definitely worth it. Either your helper or your wedding coordinator will help execute this timeline. Your photographer will more than likely present a timeline for their part. This will explain how long things take, and where and what you will be doing. And it will also include participants and a wedding shot list if that’s something you’ve discussed. Other vendors such as florist, dj’s, & the venues you are using will more than likely present a timeline that will correspond to their specialties on your wedding day.
  7. Choose a dress at least 4 months before the actual wedding day. When you are shopping for a dress think about your options. You can buy brand new, or you can even open your horizons up by looking for a resale boutique (antique, consignment), or borrowing a family heirloom.
  8. You got your wedding attire, now what? How do you want the flow of your wedding day to be? If you don’t like a bouquet toss, don’t do it. If you think the garter toss is weird, don’t do it. You love the electric slide, and every other group dance they play at weddings, tell your DJ I LOVE those.. Create the day to your likings. Make traditions into new traditions, or keep the old ones for familiarity. Again, it’s your day there isn’t a wrong answer.
  9. Presents! Registry? There is tons of different registry options some are below, you can register at your local department stores. Such as Target, Bloomingdales, Macys, Belk, Dillards, Saks, Bed bath and Beyond.. or you can register with travel companies for honeymoon funds. Some companies I know of; , (a registry for first time home owners) , . There is even a registry that will give back for you! How great to have your wedding start off with such a wonderful purpose. Who doesn’t like to do nice things and while shopping!
  10. Stick to your budget. Whether it’s 50K or $500.. You don’t want to start this new life with debt. Be realistic of your goals for your future, and don’t let a huge party with strangers cloud your judgement. Yes, have a great time! Yes, create the dream to your storybook romance. But, don’t get too crazy where you can’t afford your next month’s car payment once the fantasy has worn off.  If you aren’t paying for all of it, think of who is. Don’t let your dreams cloud the consequences of their budget. You have the rest of your life with your special someone.  Money issues are the leading cause in divorce. Don’t let yourself get into a mess before your new life starts.


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There are probably other guidelines or tips that you may even discover through your wedding planning. I am sure I only touched a small bit of all the endless opportunities you can have on your wedding day. The goal of sharing these tips was to get your wheels turning. It doesn’t have to be a stressful venture if you are organized and know what you want. When you start to let friends, or families opinions get in the way that’s when things start to get sticky. Always remember the real reason of the day. Its the union of you and you lovey. It’s the day that will solidify a new life that is being created. A partnership for eternity. So treat it to be sacred and every other detail will literally just fall into place.

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-Cheers to being engaged!  <3

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Fort Fisher/Carolina Beach Engagement Photography

If you know me,  you know I often gravitate towards the artwork that God leaves in the sky. I love sunrises, and sunsets and I love when I get that cotton candy effect in the sky. You know the blues, the reds, the pinks.. Well as luck would have it my new friends Josh and Jen agreed to have their engagement session during the sunrise hour!

Jen and Josh met me at 545am on Memorial weekend  at Fort Fisher, NC.  Josh a native to the Brunswick county area and Jen a native to Greenville met right in this location during a summer break from ECU.  (unbeknownst to both of them they were both attending the same school). So what better way to solidify their relationship by having an engagement session at a place that held such wonderful memories. Their families rented a home in Carolina Beach that weekend for the holiday and we were finally able to meet after all our correspondences through email.

Josh and Jen were nothing less than what I imagined. They were incredibly cute as they unloaded their pets out of Josh’s truck. Both their moms accompanied them to the shoot to take care of their beautiful pets, a white Labrador Abby and cute little Poodle mix Lola. I greeted both of them with a hug and the option to lather themselves in bug spray. Yes, bug spray.  It was already pretty humid at this point and the mosquitos were not scared to get friendly.

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We started the session by heading towards a spot I had scouted the day before. I was obsessed with this tree and my vision of having them near it.  The difference between the day before and that actual day was my sky. I got a little blessing that morning, the sky was the most beautiful I have ever seen it, and that made this session even more special.

Josh held Jen’s hand most of the session guiding her through the brush and rocks. He was really attentive with her well being, and I found that so adorable. He definitely lived up to the southern gentlemen mentality.  As the shoot progressed I started to instruct them to make each other laugh to get more natural shots. And no matter what Josh said or did, Jen always had a smile on her when she looked at him. She was in complete awe of him, and it was such a wonderful thing to photograph. After all photographing two people in love, truly is one of the easiest things to do 🙂




2016-05-29_00082016-05-29_00072016-05-29_00102016-05-29_00092016-05-29_00142016-05-29_0011The puppies joined us half way through for an impromptu family portrait, and than we headed towards the Carolina Beach Boardwalk.  We giggled, played, and got a little wet with the waves that came a little closer than we thought.  Josh and Jen were so much fun.
















I loved how these two looked at each other. And their such an adorably good looking couple, aren’t they?!



As the shoot was coming to an end we trailed through the boardwalk area and got some images of them on some fair rides. Because,  why not since their first date was at a fair!

Our time was coming to a close so we walked back to our cars and I spotted a beautiful little tropical spot. I ended the session with one more shot and we finally exchanged hugs. Jen and Josh are a really sweet couple, they made me giggle and I enjoyed shooting with their pets too. I loved how they incorporated their pets into the shoot.  I can hardly wait till our paths cross again for another memorable experience 🙂

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**Josh + Jen, I’m so thankful that we were able to find one another. Thank God for google, right?! Jen, I knew that it was destined that we would meet when you pulled out your NSYNC blanket. I mean.. seriously?! 🙂  I can’t say enough how much you guys made me feel comfortable!  Thank you for handling my sweaty mess, and accommodating all my ideas at the drop of a hat!  I’m extremely glad I got to convert your vision into a place that I felt fit it. I hope that our session reflected your relationship and that you guys enjoyed our time together as much as I did.


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